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Everyday.

Give yourself room to grow today.  

Listen for that voice, the slight whisper, that you often ignore. It’s your intuition, your spirit, guiding you. 

Watch for signs that light the way and confirm you are heading in the right direction. Some coincidences are hints that you are on the right path, ready for a breakthrough. Pay attention to them.

Be brave enough to make mistakes by trying, yet be humble enough to admit when you are wrong. 

Count your blessings and name them if you need reminding. Oftentimes we get so busy searching for ‘things’ we forget what we already have. 

Be okay in the not knowing and hold tight to patience. God is working things out for you. It just may not be in the time you expected.

Don’t go looking for happiness in possessions or other people. Authentic happiness can only be found inside of you. It’s always there and it’s always free. Searching for it elsewhere will only lead to discontentment.

Put your phone down for a while and look up and around. Take in the sky, the clouds, the birds, the treetops. Take in life, you will never find peace if you are always connected. 

Take a moment to kneel. Thank God that you woke up today. That you still have chances and opportunities. That you have another day to be because tomorrow could arrive but there is no promise that you will see it.

Live with reckless abandon. 

Pursue life.

It will all go by too fast and you only get this one shot.

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The Alarm Clock

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I used to wake up every morning to the alarm on my iPhone and glimpse through my alerts, which then instantly took me to Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest. Sitting in my warm, just slept in bed, before my feet had even hit the floor, there I was scrolling online, immeshed in other people’s lives and already comparing my own. One friend woke early to fix all four of her children a made from scratch pancake breakfast complete with homemade orange juice. Another friend was celebrating an anniversary and spoke about how amazing her husband was above a picture of the two dozen roses he had given her along with a beautiful, gold heart necklace, it’s diamonds glistening back at me. Feeling less than, before my day had even began, I would crawl out of bed, by now feeling defeated. Should I have gotten up earlier and slaved away in the kitchen making homemade pancakes and orange juice too? Was she a better mom than I was? My husband had never gotten me two dozen roses before. Was my marriage even solid? These are the thoughts that played through my mind while I sauntered downstairs to pour myself some coffee and pour a bowl of cereal for my own hungry child.

Galatians 6:4-5 tells us “Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others.” Spoken truth right there. Afterall, God made us each different from one another, so how can we compare ourselves to anyone else. We have our own set of blessings, talents, gifts and circumstances. When we stop seeing the things we have been given in our own lives and look instead with envy to what others have, we impair our spirit and our soul. We are not being who God made us to be.

I decided to part ways with my phone (not completely of course) and dragged out my husbands old alarm clock from the 1990’s. I plugged it in, placed it on my nightstand and watched as my kids stared in awe at this dinosaur from long ago. (they asked me if it was from the 1970’s). I set the dial to a christian radio station so that the first thing I heard upon waking was joyful music. I wanted to free myself from the pull of my phone first thing in the morning, where comparison lurked. I wanted to wake up to a new day full of hope and a lot less despair. I wanted to take a breath and be present before I dove into the online world of perfection and comparison. I wanted to stop feeling robbed and instead feel poured into. That old alarm clock did the trick, innocently singing out to me that it was time to wake up and start my day. Nothing else.

As I’ve been waking up without my phone, I’ve found that I also have been using it less throughout the day. Where I would constantly be checking it from morning until night, I now guilelessly seek it out only a few times a day. In doing so I have, in a sense, seperated myself from one world and immersed myself in another. One that is more real and even a little messy at times. I feel so much nearer to God than I ever have.

I start my day with an old alarm clock, a cup of coffee and His word. No distractions, no outside noise, only stillness. He reminds me each morning that I am enough. I don’t need to look for validation online. I don’t need to cook homemade pancakes or be given two dozen roses to know that I am loved. The stolen kisses from my husband and how he gets the coffee ready for me to brew each morning, the big bear hugs from my kids and the excitement on their faces when they see me as they step off the bus and everything else in between is enough. (Even bowls of cereal). I am enough. My life is immeasurably enough.

You are enough to friend.

You are enough every single day.

You are enough even when the world says you aren’t.

God says you are enough and His is the only opinion that genuinely matters.

When you choose to walk away from distractions and put your phone down, you see what matters, you see what is real.

When you stop envying what others have and wishing that it was yours, you find contentment and peace.

When you stop wasting your time eyeing other people’s lives, you start finding the beauty in your own.

Know deep within you’re being that you are absolutely, unequivocally enough.

Keep in mind the words above from Galatians, write them down and place them somewhere you will see them each time comparison sneaks up on you and tries to steal your joy.  Remind yourself of who you are and how unique you were made to be, and if it helps, do like I did,

get an alarm clock.

 

 

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Press Pause

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I have started to press pause in the early morning hours. 

I wake up to see my two older boys off to school, then while my little one sleeps and the house is immaculately quiet, I press pause on my day and I meet with God. 

While sipping my mug of caramel colored coffee these are the defining moments that lay the foundation for my day. 

When we start off preceding any other obligations we have, with God, we free up space within our soul to be able to do more. 

By giving our worries, concerns, frustrations and anxieties to Him we make room for what is important. 

By letting go of what is holding us down, we rise.

Pressing pause gives me a moment to breathe, to step away from the pressures of everyday life.

Pressing pause lets me reflect on who I am and who God made me to be. 

In pressing pause I become more. 

It’s refreshing to spend these silent moments alone with Him, just being. 

No masks, no pretending, no falsehoods….it’s just me being raw and real. 

In the early morning hours, before the budding of a new day begins, I meet with God.

I press pause before I press play. 

I give myself over to God wholeheartedly and for the rest of my day, I can feel Him, right by my side, carrying me through.

Press pause. 

Give yourself a moment.

Watch how everything changes.

 

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First Day of School

I walk you into your classroom and we find your desk. 

You are nervous but also excited on this first day of school.

I prayed this morning that you would be okay as the bell rang and it was time for me to go. 

I prayed that you would have a good time with your new teacher and your friends.

I asked God to watch over you and be there while I couldn’t. 

Watching you sitting there, I can’t help but feel a tug on my heart. 

Having you all to myself this summer, I was spoiled and my days will surely feel an absence without you in them as much, 

but part of being a parent is letting go and letting grow. 

I kiss you and give you a super big hug and we say goodbye for now. 

I tell you that I can’t wait to see you later and hear all about your day and you give me that crooked smile. 

I will sure miss you like crazy today but I hope you miss me less. 

I hope you feel secure and happy.

I hope that you are so busy learning and coloring and playing that you sink into your day until it is time to go and you wonder how the day is already over. 

Then you come home with immense joy and stories to tell and I can see it…

You are already excited to go back tomorrow. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Catch them

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If I could disburse one piece of advice,

something I’ve learned throughout the years of parenting,

it would be to catch your kids.  

Catch them doing something kind and call them out on it. 

Praise them and tell them how proud you are. 

Catch them saying something considerate and let them know you were listening. 

Show them approval and tell them how gracious they are. 

Catch them when they wake up, full of boundless energy and excitement, wanting to hug you and not let go.

Show them patience and joy. 

Catch them when they study hard and get a good grade.

Let them see how much you value them and all of their hard work.

Catch them when they do something without being asked.

Tell them how helpful they are and how much you appreciate them.

Catch them before they go to bed, the last few moments before tomorrow comes.  

Sit down next to them, read them a story, pray with them and tuck them in tightly. 

Whisper ‘I love you” before turning the lights out.

Show them unconditional love.

As we go about our days it’s all too easy to find the things done wrong. 

The mistakes, the messes. 

To yell and find frustration in our child’s behavior,

but, I know, that only leaves us feeling regretful, angry and sometimes bitter. 

I challenge you to catch them when they are doing things right. 

Watch out for those little moments that you would normally ignore. 

It will water their little souls and stir a softness in you as well.

It will sew happiness through the thread of your family and replace chaos with calm.  

It will transform the way you see your kids and the way they see you.

  Start now. 

Today.

Catch them.